I am part of a group of amazing, gorgeous, wise women who every week check in with each other via a video chat app. We each share a high for the week and a low for the week and we ask each other questions. Questions about motherhood, questions about marriage, questions about womanhood, questions about life. This week, one of the mamas simply asked up to share what our skin care routine was as she was looking for some inspiration for her own. What ensued was glorious. Each one of us had a different routine, different tricks, different perspectives to offer. Some believe wholeheartedly in using botox and retinal and some believe in using all natural products and solutions (I will give you 1 guess as to where I lie!).
The magical part however was not all the lotions and salves and methods we use to take care of our skin, the magic was that we realized how different we all are in our choices and yet those differences made zero difference in how we felt about each other and the support of the group. And as moms, you know that each of us are making different choices than the other would every single day, and yet at the end of the day each of our goal is common, to care for our children, our family and ourselves as best as we can.
It also reminded me why I do what I do, or possibly shed a new light on why I choose to share essential oils with all of you. It is not because I want to shame other products or corporations or methods or healthcare. It is simply because I, personally, use and believe in the oils, and because I want to create a space for EMPOWERED choices in all we do in our lives.
The definition of Empowered is: to make stronger and more confident; especially in controlling their life and claiming their rights. My friend who uses botox, I know from speaking with her how empowered she feels about using it. It doesn't matter whether or not it is something I would choose to do, because in that moment, when she is sharing what works for her, it's not about me. Just as, when I speak of essential oils, there will always be those who don't stand with me in using them, who would choose differently.
I will always be a voice for natural, organic choices, I will always share what I am learning about using essential oils and I will always be a resource for those who wish to know more. There will be those who stand right there with me and there will be those who don't. It is neither of our jobs to convince each other that we are right, because if it works for us, we both are. Ultimately, trying to be "right" weakens us all especially as mothers and women who live in a time when our opportunity to empower and be empowered is on the rise. I am so proud of the women I know right now and I am honored to be among you all. May we all make choices that make ourselves feel stronger and more confident, especially when it comes to controlling our lives and claiming our rights.
is a Mama, Wife, Teacher, Writer and Activist. She is deeply committed to unlearning her own white supremacy and privilege so not to do more harm in the perpetuation and power she has a spiritual white woman. As a coach, she teaches radical self-love and care as a way to not stay within ourselves, but to be of the most potent service outside of ourselves. As a writer she is using her voice and words to call out herself and those for whom she resonates with so that we may be called in to do the necessary work. As a Yoga and Meditation Teacher she is works to hold space for a healing that is free from toxic positivity and spiritual bypassing so that we can recognize the value of both the shadow and the light. As a Mama, she is committed to anti-racist parenting and raising a better generation of ancestors than even herself. All of it is her Activism.