Yesterday, Audrey and I had one of those wonderfully epic days. We got up early, went to our Saturday morning theater class, from there headed out to the new neighborhood playground and proceeded to stay outside for the next several hours, meeting up with friends and enjoying the sunshine. The fun continued well into the afternoon, just before bedtime however, Audrey was spent. Her energy began to unravel and we entered into a full emotional meltdown. Anyone who is a parent knows exactly what I am talking about and how that moment feels. Your incredibly overtired, highly emotional child is just losing it before your very eyes as you sit there, trying to piece together every ounce of your own sanity. Then comes the moment when out of her own anger, frustration and confusion she swings her arm and kicks her feet at you. She gets physical. And all you want to do is match that energy and scream and yell back at her to stop hitting you...
And yet, I did the exact opposite. I am proud to say that I have been strong in my own practices lately, and this entire time I remained mostly silent, calm and centered. I calmly dodged her efforts to hit, simply saying it wasn't ok to hit me and after a while was able to help her get into her pajamas and into her bed. Still incredibly upset, and protesting sleep, I got up, walked across the room and grabbed our two nighttime oils, Calmer and Steady from the Kids Collection. As I approached she yelled out “NO! I don’t want oils!” Now, I am committed to never forcing my tools on her. I want her to have complete autonomy when it comes to how she uses any self-care tool and technique. When it comes to oils especially, I want her to have choice over how she uses them, when she uses them and if she uses them. Even when I know that they could help, if there is any kind of resistance, I refrain from force and guilt.
Even so, I sat on the bed next to her and unrolled the top of Steady. As she was protesting, I took the oil and turned it towards my own heart. I drew the shape of a heart over my chest, just as I normally do to her. I took the Calmer blend and rolled it over my own feet. I closed my eyes, took a deep breath and sat quietly. In a moment or so, everything stopped, everything was silent. I opened my eyes and there she was staring at me. I smiled, I lay down next to her and she immediately rolled right into me and buried her head in my chest (perfect as that is where I rolled the oil, thought unintentional on my behalf). Her tears of protest turned into tears of release. There was a vast energetic difference. And then, I swear to you on all that is sacred, she said “I am so sorry that I hit you Mama. I am so sorry I wasn’t listening. I was feeling ‘riled up’, angry and confused”. I have no idea where she learned the phrase “riled up” but I was floored at her ability to tell me that. Next, I asked her “How do you feel now?” to which she responded “Sad, but ok”. I then asked her, “What can you do to help yourself right now my love?” and she said “I need to go to sleep”. My 4.5 year old, the very same one who was protesting for her life the idea of ending our wonderfully epic day, then rolled over, closed her eyes and calmly went to sleep. She was able to clearly communicate to me, and most importantly to herself, how she was feeling in a moment of emotional intensity, take ownership over it and pinpoint what it was that was going to support her in moving through her own sadness and emotional upset. And then she took action.
I have an incredible child, I know that. But she is not some magical unicorn that does something more or different than any other. I show her a lot on social media in her best moments, but I promise you, there is more to the story. She is human, she screams, she yells, she gets shy and she goes through phases of hitting me when she is angry and upset. We work incredibly hard at emotional intelligence...but here’s the thing, we don’t do the work on her, we do it on ourselves. In that moment that I visibly took care of my own impulse and energy, I gave her permission to do that same. She sees Justin and I on the regular, take moments throughout the day to take care of ourselves. She doesn’t just see it in our joy, but she sees it in our pain and discomfort too. If we argue, we do it (respectfully) in front of her, not behind closed doors as long as the content is appropriate. She watches us take deep breaths, use oils, meditate, take breaks and then come back together to make up with love, kindness and respect. We try hard for her to know that conflict is not a negative thing, something to run from, but something to learn from, mostly about ourselves. She sees if we are sad, or overtired ourselves and we clearly talk about what it is we are feeling.
But here is why I want to share this most of all...I talk a lot about Self-Care and Self-Love. In my work, I teach these practices daily, to my coaching clients, my challenge groups and my yoga students. I genuinely want anyone who works with me to find the benefits of this work and have it work for themselves. However, that is not my why. My reason for teaching this is so that we have the ability to pass this important work down to our children and the generations that come after us. This is legacy work. It is how we will teach our children because they do not do what we say, they do what they see. We are all handed things from our ancestors, from our parents, not just in the form of things, but also in the form of emotional patterns and habits. How we handle our emotional states and self IS our legacy.
In that very moment that I simultaneously listened to my daughter’s protests, didn’t force her to bend to my will and directed my efforts on my own needs, I gave us both permission to soften, to be present and to take ownership over self. I too am not some magical unicorn who has always known how to go about this. In fact, there was a long time in my life when I was completely unable to take ownership and would have flown off the handle at a moment’s notice. Motherhood itself has been the strongest test to those patterns and habits and in an earlier time in my life, I would have railed right back at my child. Anger seemed to give me some sense of sanity in the moment. But the hangover that I got from it and the wake that it left were too great of a consequence for me to continue in that way. And while it wasn’t completely my fault, it was what was unconsciously passed down to me, my choice in whether or not I continue it is 100% mine to own.
We are living in an incredibly stressful time. This past week has been especially heavy. And we can be certain that if we are feeling it as adults, so are our children, little empaths that they are. And in all honesty, this is a profound opportunity to change the pattern and habits of how we deal with this kind of collective stress, by being more intentional with our personal stress. Our children are looking to us to show them how to respond. We can either continue down the path of the work that was created in a different time and space, when there were completely different circumstances at play, or we can create new pathways. One that makes more sense for the present moment and serves us, our children and each other better. How you care for yourself, is how you teach others to care for you, how you teach them to care for themselves and it is your legacy.
Tomorrow, I am launching some new, regular ways to get into and remain in your own work. I absolutely want to inspire you to think about you when considering signing up, but I also want you to think about what doing this kind of work will mean, for generations to come.
In the meantime, here are two links to purchase the Kids Collection Oils and the Emotional Aromatherapy Oils. If you want my help in a more personalized purchase, send me an email.
Love Yourself Today,
One of the reasons that I LOVE using essential oils with Audrey is that they give her the tools and autonomy to take care of her emotions and her body with great intention. It matters greatly to us that she remains in constant self-inquiry and every day practices of self-care and love, while maintaining her natural love for learning about all kinds of things.
When I saw this Science for Kids Workbook, I fell even more in love with doTERRA for creating something that engages our kids in their natural curiosity and love for science, using essential oils! It's actually super fun to work through as an adult too!!
In doing a bit of research for a bigger piece I am working on, I came across this word and these thoughts. I thought I would share them candidly here as I believe this represents a bigger issue in our culture...
Let's talk about the first definition that addresses psychological benefit vs. physiological benefit. This completely separates the mind from the body as if one is oil and one is water. Your mind IS your body and studies are now really showing that what we think, how we feel, effect how we function on a physiological level. Not to mention, if you feel motivated, upbeat, positive you are more likely to treat your physical body much differently then when you feel sluggish, sad and unable to cope. To me, that completely disputes the underscored definition of it offering "no therapeutic effect". And lastly, I love how the word "merely" is placed before calm and please as if they are secondary in some way. We have to stop thinking of mental and emotional health as something that is "merely". HOW YOU FEEL MATTERS. And even more importantly, your ability to intelligently navigate how you feel, that you have tools, support and encouragement to do so, matters. Because as of now the most used tools to navigate such waters have been things like drugs, alcohol, sex, food and social media. Things that numb and keep us from our potential rather than allow us to move through our feelings with love and grace towards our potential.
Let me be clear, I am not saying that we should ONLY address matters of the mind when it comes to how we treat disease. Medicine is a wondrous thing that saves many, many lives when appropriately used. I am grateful that doctors were able to save my brother's heart twice in his life and that he had pain medication to help through the pain. I am grateful that there ARE antibiotics available in this country should my child or anyone I love need them. This is NOT an argument for one or the other, alternative healing vs. western medicine. To be quite blunt, that is a bullshit argument that only creates divisiveness among practitioners of all kinds. But we have also so greatly disconnected our minds, the power that we have over our entire system that we have completely written it off as "merely" or "non-therapeutic".
I am also not advocating that we start embracing this word placebo. I am actually advocating that we knock it off all together. We have to better integrate mind, body and spirit and if we are going to do that, we have to become less obsessed with proving everything all the time and TRUSTING our own brains more. We have to be more willing to get to know ourselves rather than look outwardly for how to "fix" ourselves. The solutions to so many issues actually live within our own minds and how we relate to the human experience that we are having. "It's all in your head" should not be something that we brush off, but something that we embrace and welcome in as a real and felt experience. Our anxiety, our stress, our worry, our fear, all of it is calling our attention back to ourselves for a little more one on one time than we tend to give.
Today is the first day of a brand new month, this means that you can begin again. Whatever winter has weighed you down with, today you can decide it's time to begin the process of emergence. Begin to peel away the layers, the weight, the worry, the doubt and begin to put your face to the sun. Allow what needs softening to melt away and simply remind yourself that in this beautiful process of your life, it is never too late to begin again. Today. Right now.
Happy March my friend. Your spring is coming.
And I want to invite you to begin a new journey this month...
Meet the Healthy Essentials Kit!!doTERRA has been revamping a lot of their kits and collections and hands down, this one is my absolute new favorite and I will tell the very important reason why:
While it still has all of the important oils for keeping your body healthy such as:
OnGuard - to keep the Immune system running well and efficiently
Breathe - to keep the respiratory system strong
Lavender - to help with the ever important good night's rest
Peppermint - to help with headaches and pain
DigestZen - to help with keeping your digestive system running smoothly
DeepBlue - to help your muscles feeling healthy
Lemon - to help keep your entire body feeling cleansed
it ALSO comes with 3 incredibly important oils and blends that address our emotional and mental health and function:
Copaiba - a cannabinoid that helps to reduce feelings of stress and anxiety and calm down the nervous system. A drop under the tongue does WONDERS. It also supports healthy immune system function.
Apaptiv - an incredible blend that has been specifically formulated to help with our emotional state of being when things get heightened with stress, worry, doubt and fear. This blend lights up the brain in a way that helps us adapt rather than react.
Balance - A grounding blend that brings us back to earth and our bodies when the air of overwhelm hits.
The kit also comes with a Petal Diffuser!
This is an incredible kit to bring into your home and your daily ritual. If you follow me at all, you know that I wholeheartedly believe that we must care for our minds, our hearts and our spirits just as much as we care for our bodies. It's not that its all connected, its that it all IS the same being. How we feel emotionally informs how our bodies function physically. What's so incredible about this kit is that it really addresses it all!
When you purchase this kit this month, you will get a free coaching call with me so that we can come up with a plan designed just for you and how to put these tools into action!
So there I was, standing in front of a table of prominent casting directors and agents. I had just finished my “audition night” at the end of a month long theater class I paid for. I don’t remember all of the feedback that was given, but what I do remember was the moment that one of them looked me up and down and said “Now Sara, normally you look fabulous, but I don’t know what happened tonight”. He went on to comment about my “unsupported boobs”, how I looked like a Middle Aged Mom and that nobody needs to see that. I remember the others in the room gasped a little bit, some laughed and I just stood there still as can be in the center of the room. I had no idea how to respond other than to put a slight uncomfortable smile on my face and simply nod along. I remember walking out of the room, the other people who were waiting to go on asking how it went and I just kind of stood there, muttering something like “ok, I think but “blank” didn’t like my dress” even though it was so much more than that. My face was flushed and I couldn’t wait to get out of there, I was in shock.
Looking back now I want so badly for that 27 year old version of myself to look that person right in the eye and say “excuse me? Who do you think you are to speak so openly about my body in that way?” I wish I had walked out of the room and demanded my money back because I did not need to be paying for my own body shaming.
It’s taken me a long time to understand how wrong that was. It’s taken me a long time to heal from not just that, but years of body shaming moments. Like when I was told how huge I was at a beauty salon while 7 months pregnant. It seems that it has been always open season to comment on women’s bodies.
The hardest part however is that for so long, I accepted it as ok too. And in fact I am SURE I did my own fair share of shaming others simply through my inner judgement. It is a sickness in our society and none of us have been immune.
That still doesn’t excuse how pervasive this problem is, especially with those who have some power. That night standing in front of that panel, that casting director knew how badly I wanted to be liked by them. He knew how much I wanted to succeed in the business. Whether or not he knew at the time he was wrong (and I truly hope that he does now), he took that little bit of power and played with it in such a harmful way. But honestly, I am not writing this post to make it about him. He doesn’t get to have that much attention.
I am writing this for the girl who stood in the middle of that room and couldn’t defend herself because at the time she didn’t believe that she had enough power within herself to speak up and say “Nope, that’s not ok”. She didn’t know because from a very young age she believed that how she looked was a part of her currency and what she brought to the table. The girl who never wore the dress she wore that night again, even though it had been one of her favorite dresses. How I wish that I still had it so that I could actually put it back on, this time with my unsupported boobs that really are that of a middle aged mom who birthed and nourished her child with them. I also wish I could tell her then what I know now which is that your body, how it looks is never open for discussion and she is so much more than a body and how it looks.
In these last few years of deep self-care work, I have discovered an unwavering feeling of empowerment and passion that wasn’t present over a decade ago. I share this story with you, not to claim my victimhood. Nor do I look to “cancel” this particular person out. Quite frankly, I have some issues with the so called “cancel culture” and how it limits our capacity to learn from one another. I want to point out that it’s possible to go from the girl who stood speechless in that room, to the woman who feels strong enough to speak up, honestly share this experience, even if it is 12 years later. The truth is that I was able to give my power away in that room because I didn’t believe that I deserved to have any. I was in the constant practice of putting other people on pedestals above myself and allowing their opinions and judgement to mean more to me than my own. It wasn’t until I started to really get in touch with myself on the regular that I realized how valuable I actually am and that my voice deserves to be heard, especially when something isn’t right.
I wish this issue was a thing of the past but alas, just today I read about a high schooler who has been experiencing body shaming for being fat in her school theater productions. She was much more brilliantly able to stand up and speak her truth in the moment than I was and I was so proud to read that. I suspect however, that she is still one of few rather than one of many and so I want to say here and now as a mantra for us all “No one has the right to comment on your body”. Not your friend, not your parent, not your spouse, not your boss, not the casting director across the room, or the costume designer taking measurements. No one gets to take verbal ownership over the space that is literally YOUR container. You body, your bones, your skin, your muscle, all of it the packaging for something much bigger than what it looks like on the outside.
I do believe that the path to finding this power to stand up and speak up is directly connected to how we care for ourselves in the first place. If we are taking the time each day to love and nurture and cherish who we are, as we are, we will be much better equipped to handle the tougher more adverse moments of our lives. We won’t be so willing to hand over the reigns of our personal power to those who would use it to cause harm. I recently read a quote that said “Every next level of your life will demand a different version of you”. I don’t continue to shame myself for what I wasn’t able to do back then because I was not yet the version I am today. But I do use it as a reminder often of how far I have come and the work that it has taken to get myself here. I am immensely proud of it. And I believe so strongly in taking this kind of action that I work every single day to support more and more women in their ability to cultivate unwavering self-love and worth so that no one person’s ignorant comments can penetrate that which they can create for themselves, a deep rooted power of self love. This kind of thinking wasn't being taught or talked about back then as much, but thankfully it is now. My hope is that we are currently in a time of major upleveling, in all directions.
On March 1st I will begin leading a group in a 31 day meditation challenge. This is that practice that has become the foundation of my daily self-care and self-love rituals. It is how I connect to the part of me that no one can see or take ownership of but me. I hope that if this story resonated with you in some way that you will join me. You can sign up HERE.
And just because I can, here is a picture of me in THE dress.
Giving YOURSELF more time and attention will NOT be taking away time and attention that you have to give to others...it will give you MORE.
I spoke about this on my Instagram stories last week because this kept coming up a lot in my sessions with coaching clients. Although I don’t believe this is only an issue that women have, I do hear it a lot from not only my clients but from other mama friends. This idea that if we give ourselves any amount of attention, it is selfish and taking away time that we NEED to put on the daily tasks at hand or the people we care for in our lives.
While yes, there are only a certain number of hours in a day and we cannot actually create MORE time, we can create more within ourselves to give by actually taking some time to connect to our self. We seem to be plagued in this society with the idea that more is more and if we aren’t spending every waking moment in action and in the doing, we aren’t actually being a productive and valuable human. This is such a harmful mindset and one that is the cause of so much burn out and stress and anxiety. Not to mention the obscene amount of expectations that are placed on women, whether at home or in the workplace, mental load or physical load of daily life. That being said, we have to take back control of our own burn out around it all. We have to step up and step in to a new way of existing and make it NON-NEGOTIABLE each and every single day in order to make it clear that which is no longer acceptable.
I know the moment that my daughter is in burn out. She all of a sudden stops listening, she gets punchy and can’t seem to focus on anything. When this happens, we know that she needs to power down and really, get quiet with herself. If it isn’t actually time for bed, we offer some options to be safely alone in her room for a bit of time. Sometimes it means she lies down and listens to a story, sometimes it means that we simply put some soft music on while she plays and sometimes it’s non-messy art time. We leave the room and she spends time alone, tending to herself in any way that she feels fit. In fact, as I write this, she is in her room coloring mandalas, listening to stories with oils diffusing! All of it her choice in how to care for herself. As her parents, we have made this kind of time non-negotiable for her for now, while it's our job to help guide her along and read her signals. However the older she gets, the more she takes this time voluntarily and hopefully it is something that she will carry with her for the rest of her life.
As adults, we seem to forget that we still need this every day too. We don’t outgrow the need for this kind of time, care and attention. And yet we so quickly and readily give it away as if we can just keep on plowing through without any consequences. What is even worse is that even when we start to feel and notice the consequences, we STILL don’t allow ourselves the option to slow down and get more deliberate with our own attention. We have gotten so good at normalizing stress and fatigue and mental overload that we simply carry on, business as usual. Whereas if we were to just stop, take a bit of our time and sanction it off for ourselves, we could relieve some of the pressure.
To dive into the deep end a little bit here, this issue when it comes to women is so prevalent because we often don’t value ourselves enough to take the time. Much of that is because we have been told that giving to others is the most important thing to do and should always be first on our list. We are programmed to think that our love must first be constantly projected outward both in how we give it and in how we pursue it.
So how radical would it be if we decided that today, we were going to begin giving ourselves 5-10 minutes each day (longer if you can) of your own undivided attention? What if you made it non-negotiable and actually put it at the top of your priority list or even added it to the calendar? And I do not mean to stop doing whatever you are doing and go scroll social media or watch something. I mean that you sit with yourself, you breathe, you journal, you do something that is the opposite of distraction because it is actually cultivating inner connection. I am willing to place money on it that if you did this for the next several weeks or months you would notice a drastic difference in the overall quality of the time and attention that you give to others. You would actually notice that you have so much MORE to give of yourself, because you are first and foremost in the nurturing of yourself. It would change the way that people interact with us, the way that we interact with people and most importantly for me, finally teach our daughters that self-care is not selfish. Self-Love is not arrogant and that Self-Worth does not come from an outside source.
I would love to guide you into this new, radical way of being. The entire month of March is going to be all about meditating each day. You may be surprised at what this means, and if you are someone who has never even considered meditating before, I highly recommend you signing up! All month long I will guide you and help you create some sacred time for yourself each day through the art and practice of meditation. The entire cost is $25 which means that you will be spending less than $1 a day on yourself, but I promise you that it will pay off as if you spent millions! So are you ready to be the radical, feminist (and I don't just mean female), most empowered self-care/self-love/self-worth advocate you have ever been?
Be able to give more of yourself by first giving more TO yourself.
Audrey and I made these yesterday for her to bring to her classmates today! They were super simple and fun! We used this super inexpensive kit from Amazon that came with a mold, sticks, wrappers and twist ties.
We used Lemon Essential Oil as the recipe suggests, but you can use any doTERRA oil that is made for consumption. Quick Tip: You will know if a doTERRA oil is OK to be ingested by looking at the bottle, if there is Supplement Information listed, it is OK to take internally. Also ONLY use doTERRA oils for internal use, not all oils are created equally!
1 cup sugar
⅓ cup honey
2 tablespoons water
5 drops Lemon oil, or oil of choice
Please forgive me, the entire concept and idea of this post was stolen from Ange Peters and a recent post she put in her Instagram Stories. I believe she even talks about them on her podcast, though I have yet to listen. But still these three barriers resonated with me so much, that I wanted to write about them from my own experience and point of view. So here are the 3 Barriers that people must cross before they decide to purchase doTERRA:
#1. You're doubtful that the oils will work for you.
There is so much information and misinformation out there about essential oils that it can make our heads spin when it comes to wondering whether or not they actually work and will work for us. We live in such an evidence based society that we often need to know exactly why and how something will work for us, before we even venture into trying...well...at least when it comes to natural remedies. A funny thing I have noticed is that the majority of people don't actually question the drug that their doctor writes them a prescription for. Now I know, "but they are a doctor and your doTERRA Wellness Advocate is not." That's true and I would never directly encourage you to go against medical advice, so long as it aligns with your own feelings of comfort and trust in moving forward with things. But the issue is that we don't usually even get to the point where we are questioning how we feel about what is being told about our bodies and the best way to help them heal. We tend to put our medical professionals on pedestals and believe that whatever they have to say, is complete and utter truth, even going so far as to ignore our own intuitive knowing. We put our own healing in the hands of someone else and that, to me, is a very serious issue. I am NOT saying that we shouldn't seek out the support, advice and wisdom of professionals. I very much value the study and effort that has gone into honing their skills. I come from a long line of them and have a deep respect for anyone who enters into the field of healthcare. But I do want to call out the very serious imbalance that has been present in learning how to care for ourselves in the best way possible vs. simply looking for a quick remedy that can be handed to us by someone else. And medicines don't work for us all the time. How often do we hear that we need to change to a different dosage or that there have been major side effects due to a new pill being taken. As much as we hate to hear this, Science is an imperfect practice. It ebbs and flows with the rest of life, with new information being learned every day and old ideas and truths being changed or even dis-proved.
All of this to say, it's ok to wonder how oils will work for you, but please release the doubt, because the only thing it is perpetuating is a deeper doubt within ourselves around what is possible for us. It is very possible that a medication prescribed by a doctor will work wonders. I've seen it happen. It's also possible that using an essential oil to calm your mind, aid in digestion or clear your skin will work wonders. I've also seen it happen. It is my personal belief that our doubt is a powerful teaching to show us exactly where we could let go a little more and practice both willingness and trust. And if you are willing to try that pill they may cause damage to your kidney's or low libido, why not try an essential oil? (that will do none of those things btw).
#2. You question if there's any difference between doTERRA and what you can buy at the mall or health foods store.
There are a couple of ways that I could address this. Number one, whenever anything becomes trendy, people tend to want to capitalize on it. It makes sense and I don't fault that. However, there is so much information out there now that talks about "greenwashing" and how because something is labeled as using essential oils, or all natural, we quickly think well this must be good then and if it's cheaper than an alternative, even better! But we are now learning that just because the beautiful label says it to be true, does not mean that there aren't things inside the bottle that can cause harm. Here's the truth, there is no governing body for essential oils. The FDA does not approve or disapprove them (nor would I necessarily trust them if they did, hello they approved aspartame). This means however that inside your store bought bottle of essential oil, there could be, and often are, other fillers to help keep the price down but the oils moving off the shelf.
One of the reasons I stand so solidly behind doTERRA is that they third party test all of their oils. On the bottom of each bottle you find a number. Then from there you go to SourcetoYou.com and you can read the test results of each batch of oil. Not to mention that there have been numerous independent studies done now on all different brands and each time, doTERRA comes back clean as a whistle with no adulteration or fillers.
The other point I will make about purchasing oils at a store vs. through a wellness advocate is that you get more support via the latter route. Essential oils are potent and powerful and chances are, when you bring them home there is a moment of "Now what?". Part of the perk of going through someone you know and trust (and yes, there are untrustworthy advocates too), is that you get to learn about how to use the oils in a way that really works for you. Personally, I am here for all of my team to get their questions answered at any time, to provide free resources to learn more and to help them create rituals and routines around using their oils so they get the most impact out of them. And when the argument comes in to play that they are more expensive than other brands, I simply say that in this case, you really do get what you pay for both in quality and service.
The bottom line, there is a very big difference in doTERRA essential oils and those that you can purchase at the store...both in quality and structure. Speaking of structure...
#3. You're aware that doTERRA is sold through the network marketing model...doesn't that make it a pyramid scheme?
I am fully aware of the skepticism around this topic. In fact, in doing research for writing this post, I came across some comments and blogs that just spew hate and vitriol for MLM's and the people who work within them. It was actually incredible to read some of the things that people attach themselves to and choose to put energy towards, based on something they likely don't understand.
Let me begin with this, Multi-level Marketing /Network Marketing is not a scheme. Bernie Madoff was a scheme. But doTERRA has very specific reasons for why they chose to go the route of having their product shared via person to person vs. selling in the store. Much of it what I mentioned already above about the importance of continued education and learning for all who choose to use essential oils. But let me also un-demonize the model of network marketing for a moment:
I have a mentor and teacher from who I study with and learn from, Elena Brower.
She provides us with hours of content, education and resources to learn and study from to help support us in our own growth, as well as our desire to support others in their growth. When I do well, yes you betcha, she lights up and gets rewarded. But so do so many others, and that in turn inspires us all to continue to work and learn and grow and share. It is truly a network, mostly of women, who spend our time and our efforts learning how we can revolutionize health care while keeping our own health in our hands, rather in the hands of someone else. We are a network of teachers who light each other up, take our work VERY seriously and are committed to honesty, transparency and intelligent action. And yes, abundance because making money doing something you love, while helping people, is not a negative thing.
Not to mention, there is no get rich quick thing happening here. It takes a TON of work and I am learning to run my own business which means I have had success and failure all over the place. Schemes exist, in all areas of life, including health, wellness and traditional healthcare. But to paint a model that is simply different from what we are used to in this ever growing corporate society as a scheme, I believe is incredibly short sighted.
I am curious to know if you use doTERRA, were these barriers that you too had to cross? Are you possibly interested in what you see me constantly posting and writing about, but you resonate with some of what I addressed above? One thing you should know about me, if you don't already is that I am nothing but genuine and truly here to serve, support and inspire. I would absolutely love to help get more of your questions answered and help you break through the barriers that tend to keep us in one place. I certainly had to do the same thing myself, 4 years ago and I am so very glad that I did.
Email Me: Sara@oneOMatatime.com
Recently, an article in the NY Times was brought to my attention via an online Mom's group that I belong to. The article, entitled "Who's Afraid of Gwenyth Paltrow and Goop?" speaks to something that I have been wanting to talk about for a long time, which is how deeply ingrained Patriarchy is when it comes to self-care and wellness. And something that I want to be very clear about...it's not just an issue with men, but rather it is actually very much an issue that we as women have to face and acknowledge. Upon reading the above article, I couldn't help but think, what if Gwenyth were a man? Would she be treated differently? Would she take far less heat for trying these very outside of the box modalities of care? Would she actually be praised for getting in touch with her vulnerability and need to find spiritual healing? Would women judge her less and more men actually get on board? I, of course, cannot prove this (much to the chagrin of our evidence based society), but I would be lying if I didn't say that I think it's very possibly true.
Even more honestly, I will share that I have often had the thought that if my husband were to decide that he wanted to jump into my business with me, not only would I garner more attention, but things would grow exponentially faster. We have had the candid discussion that if all of a sudden, the world started to see him talk about the power of essential oils and how they work for him, people would more readily dive into believing, rather than pass it off and spiritual "woo" (see one of my latest posts on why that word is no longer ok). This is not me saying "Oh woe is me" to be clear. My husband fully supports and backs me up in my work, his interest simply lies elsewhere in his own career. And I don't actually desire to have him as a business partner, simply because of that reason. He would have to be just as passionate as I am about teaching the art of self-care as I am, because in truth, while I wish to continue to grow financially, it isn't all about the money for me.
But I think the hard reality is that, we as women, have allowed patriarchal views to usurp the power we have over our own intuitive knowing. We look for things to be "knowable" or "proveable", when there was once a time when we were able to simply listen to ourselves and each other and create healing rituals and practices for both ourselves and those we care for. Instead, we have been programmed to turn towards doubt and skepticism and so quickly roll our eyes at those who wish to take a stand for alternative, out of the mainstream options.
I am not saying that Gwenyth Paltrow needs be the end all be all of wellness. And I am humble enough to say that while quick judgements based on her outward personae are easy, I don't, in fact, know anything about her, her life or what she has been through to want to be in the pursuit of such practices. But I do know that we have to stop judging women in wellness, especially among each other and we have to break down the walls that patriarchy has so widely built in our own points of view. And so I invite you to ask yourself this, "If Gwenyth Paltrow was a man, do you think she would take less heat?". Read the article and then I am open to an honest and respectful conversation about this in the comments below...
is a Mama, Wife, Teacher, Writer and Creator of One OM at a time. She has been teaching and studying yoga since 2008 and has taught at studios in Syracuse, Boston and New York City. For two years her hOMe was wherever she, her husband Justin, their daughter Audrey and pug Oscar find themselves as they traveled for Justin's job on the national tour of Matilda the Musical. This way of living has really taught Sara that yoga and mediation requires nothing more than some time and a space for your mat. You can find Sara teaching regular classes in NYC, workshops and retreats all over the country as well as in her very own online studio right here!